Sometimes, sex can be a little wham-bam. Let me introduce you to the exact opposite of that: tantric sex. It's that long, slow, "souls-connecting" type of sex that honestly sounds simultaneously intimidating and sexy AF. You've probably heard about tantric sex before. Maybe you have a vague sense that it involves prolonging a dude's erection which it kind of does. But tantric sex has actually been around for thousands of years and has origins in the same teachings as yoga. There's no rulebook, per say, but at the heart of tantra are sexual rituals that get you in the mood and help you connect with your partner. One biggie: "worshipping" or serving each other. Partners turn the focus on one another like through massage , which prolongs and builds arousal, say Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels, co-authors of Tantra for Erotic Empowerment and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality.
Why should I give Tantric sex a try?
Beginning Tantric Sex Techniques
Tantric sex is a whole new way of being in sexual connection that allows you access to deeper levels of feeling, sensation, and energy, and ultimately more of who you really are. This path is simple but profound: It's about wholeheartedly celebrating the sacredness of our bodies and desires while bringing a quality of mindful awareness to the shared expression of pleasure. It can help you release shame, trauma, and blocks around sex, unleashing the transformative power of your erotic energy and leading you to some of the most soul-shattering orgasms ever.
5 Steps to Practice Transformative Tantric Sex
While most people think of tantra merely as a method for firing up your sex-life, tantric sex is really about creating a deep physical and spiritual connection with your partner AND yourself. Therefore, you can expect to get your world rocked in the best way on multiple fronts. In fact, just one deep tantra experience is enough for harmonizing your life with divine purpose. To begin with, you need to clean yourself up to become free from stress, anger, fear, jealousy, anxiety or any other negative emotions. There are a few techniques for doing this you can pick which one you feel most comfortable doing :.
In practice, tantra is about enlightenment: to transcend both the sexual and spiritual planes by engaging in deeply meditative, spontaneous, and intimate sex. When you learn and practice tantra, you become more in-tune with your body, what gives it pleasure, and the way it feels pleasure. Plus, the energies you channel during tantric sex flow throughout your body and can intensify your orgasm. It can also be about creating a deeper, more harmonious bond with your partner. Tantra also allows you both to explore and expand all aspects of your personalities, so that you begin to truly know the other person inside and out. Sofia Sundari, a writer and sex empowerment coach, suggests the following tips on her blog:. A clear mindset and willingness to step out of your comfort zone are important to uniting those parts of yourself.
